So, I thought I’d add a different topic that is relatable to almost every female; body image and shaming. I feel so sorry for our youth and the unrealistic body images that are constantly being thrown their way. The utter struggle to be “perfect” and to “fit in.” You can never be too thin or too rich…
Well, here is my perspective on the subject being a healthy 78kg thirty one year old. I deal with low self esteem and depression, so I am not going to be a hypocrite and say that I love myself just the way I am; heck no. What I am trying to do is change this for our youth so that they don’t have to deal with this in the future. Magazines are the no1 reason for this; due to Photoshop and all the pages aiding dieting and showing off pictures of woman who are clearly models. We are not all models, so isn’t that unfair? Yes it is. Kendrick Lamar said it best in his latest song: “Show me something natural, I wanna see some stretch marks.”
Girls go to school and we all know they are surrounded by all types of “social groups.” It Is human nature to form them. Some girls do look like supermodels naturally; but that doesn’t mean that they are better than you. The boys aid this as they are attracted to this image that is unattainable to everyone. So now you are invited to a pool party at Jen’s place but you don’t want to go because you think you are fat. This leads to so much more psychological damage than you know. And it isn’t your fault for thinking this way.
Don’t even get me started on Selfies and Instagram where you can literally appear to be someone you are not and edit all those imperfections away. But what happens when the real world sees that this isn’t really you? We are all guilty of it. Now you are creating your own unrealistic body image. If girls and woman alike could just compliment each other instead of wanting to always be better, fitter, more beautiful; then I think we could move forward as a society. If we keep at this; we will be moving more and more towards depression, suicidal thoughts, cutting, bullying and much more all because we think we are not perfect enough to please everyone else.
We must not fool ourselves into thinking that being fat is the only body image flaw that we are affected by. There are girls who are naturally skinny, or who have a disease or disorder that means they struggle to pick up weight. They have their own problems. Bulimia, anorexia, these are all real things that girls are facing on a daily basis. We need to uplift, not put down.
So, why don’t we try something different for Spring Day tomorrow? Let’s be ourselves; let’s compliment our fellow girls; let’s see that every stretch mark and every imperfection is a natural flaw that they do not need to be ashamed of; let’s take some real Selfies; let’s trend the hashtag NO FILTER and stick to it. Summer is coming! Let’s focus on music, fun, health and being ourselves.